One disagreement that I recently experienced was with
my 14 year old daughter. Every weekend she thinks she has to go somewhere. The conflict
we had was because she wanted to stay out later than her curfew. Her curfew is
9 or maybe 10 depending on who she with and what they are doing. Last week her
and her friends went to the skating rink. It closes at 10 so I told her I would
be to pick her up. Around 9:30 she called me asking could she go to her friend’s
house and go to McDonald's. I couldn’t get her to understand that I love her and
I am watching out for her safety. All she see is a lot of children hanging out
and she think it is okay to do the stuff her friends do.
One strategy that I will do is to continue to discuss
(every time she goes out) that way when I say I’m going to pick her up then
that’s what I’m going to do. We will hold this discussion before she leaves so
she will have that understanding. I explained to my daughter the reason why I
don’t like her hanging out and I want to pick her up myself because that way I
know she is safe.
“One of the 3 R’s is respect. “I will continue to talk,
treat and approach her with respect because positive relationships/interactions
are the foundation for future learning and relationships” (Chesire, 2007). When
I asked her about our discussion, she appreciates that I always talk to her
with respect and that she appreciates that I care for her well-being and that I
give her a chance to share her feelings and thoughts. She also said that she
understands that even though she’s a teenager now she is still my little girl
and that she needs to follow the rules that I set for her because they are for
her own well-being.
Reference
Chesire, N. (2007). The 3
R’s: Gateway to Infant Toddler Learning. Dimensions of Early Childhood. Volume
35, No. 3.
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